Is it a week already since my last post? What a blur.
I went to Gleason’s Gym on Monday and Thursday. Even added crunches in the sit-up chair at the end my workout. I felt a sense of accomplishment. The reminder of what a touchstone the gym has been and how much I miss it when I don’t go on a regular basis. The moments of self-care so revitalizing to my sense of well being.
The emotional rollercoaster has been moving forward to find part-time companion care for Jed.
I feel he needs an interesting someone to have contact with for a few hours a couple of days a week. Someone who isn’t me and who won’t invoke feelings of being infantilized from time to time. Still it gives me such an overwhelming sense of responsibility as I make decisions on his behalf. I admit that it is tangled up with my sense of helplessness and failure. And yes, I know I do not have the power to fill in the missing spaces in his brain. Or unknot the tau protein clotted ends of his neuron cell axon terminals that can no longer communicate. And no, me beating myself doesn’t help either, but the feelings are there for me to work through.
Meanwhile, plowing forward, I made a connection with an organization that specializes in matching folks up and will have a first preliminary meeting this coming Tuesday. The challenge will be figuring out how to introduce the companion caregiver to him so that it will be something that he wants to do. We shall see, but I have the hope that once we get past the introductory phase, it will help Jed engage more. And maybe even pry him outside when the weather eases up a bit more.
And so it goes.
Though this is not a direct parallel, I hope it helps for you to know that when I found the right part-time caregiver for Mom, who has Alzheimer’s, the independent engagement and stimulation with this person was so restorative. Mom was uplifted – I could hear it in her voice. And she began applying her brain to new tasks given by the caregiver and regained some self-confidence.
I am so appreciative of your comment. Your mother’s experience gives me hope. 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Sending love to and Jed. You always do the right thing.
Thank you, Penny 🙏🏽